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Goal Setting Worksheets:
1. 10 Categories: Use this 10 category goal setting worksheet to identify what you want for your lifetime. Having a hard time thinking of goals? Use the questions on the last page to help.

2. Lifelong Goals Worksheet: By working backward from old age to your current age you can see that the direction you take in life now can directly affect your life at 70. Use this worksheet to help give your life purpose and guidance in a world full of options.
Feeling Words Chart: We all know simple feeling words, happy, sad, mad. Use this Feelings Words Worksheet for those times where a simple word just doesn’t describe the feelings accurately enough.
Relationship Goals Worksheet: What is your vision for a relationship? If you don’t know then how do you know what you’re looking for? How will you know if you’ve found it? Use this worksheet to get clear on what you want and how you prepare yourself to get the relationship you desire.
Values Identification Worksheet: When we find ourselves not knowing who we are, this is a great start. Identify what you value as a way to reintroduce yourself to this ever changing you.
Yes, No, Maybe List: Welcome to the sex menu! This is a fun way to learn about each others sexual boundaries so you can make your sex the most fulfilling it can be. First, fill out the guide at the same time as but on a separate sheet of paper from your partner. If you are into something it’s a YES. If not, it’s a NO. If you’re unsure or want more information it’s a MAYBE. Second, sit with your partner and share answers.

Resources

Aging:
– Assisted Loving: The Journey Through Sexuality and Aging by Ginger Manley
– AARP Aging Resources
– Hope Springs (Movie)
– Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud About Senior Sex by Joan Price
– 5 Changes to Expect for Your Senior Sex Life
Anxiety:
– Anxiety and Depression Association of America
– Relaxation Exercises
– The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook by Edmund J. Bourne
– Dare: The New Way to End Anxiety and Stop Panic Attacks by Barry McDonagh
– Do you suffer from an anxiety disorder?
Asexuality:
– Asexuality Groups
– The Trevor Project: Asexuality 101
– AVEN: The Asexual Visibility and Education Network
– The Invisible Orientation by Julie Sondra decker
Attachment Theory:
– How We Love by Milan and Kay Yerkovich
– Secure Love by Julie Menanno
– Anxiously Attached by Jessica Baum
– @thesecurerelationship
Becoming A Therapist:
– Let’s Talk About Sex: Real Stories from a Therapist’s Office by Ann-Marlene Henning
– Becoming Myself by Irvin D. Yalom
– The Gift of Therapy by Irvin D. Yalom
– Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl
– The Family Crucible by Augustus Napier and Carl Whitaker
– How to Become a Sex Therapist
Black Mental Health:
– Black Emotional and Mental Health Collective
– Black Youth Matters
– Harriets Apothecary Blog
– National Queer and Trans Therapists of Color
– Instagram @nedratawwab
Breakups and Divorce:
– Choosing ME Before for We: Every Woman’s Guide to Life and Love by Christine Arulo
– The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations for Codependents by Melody Beattie
– Something Gained by Deb Purdy
– Conscious Uncoupling by Katherine Woodward Thomas
– The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin
– Headspace for meditation (also Netflix has a headspace meditation show)
– Instagram @yourbreakupbestie
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy & Cognitive Processing Therapy:
– ABC Worksheet
– Challenging Questions Worksheet
– Patterns of Problematic Thinking Worksheet
– Challenging Beliefs Worksheet
– PTSD Weekly Assessment
Couples:
– See “Attachment Theory”
– The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman
– The Sex Starved Marriage by Michele Davice-Weiner
– Reconcilable Differences by Andrew Christensen, Brian D. Doss, and Neil S. Jacobson
– The Seven Levels of Intimacy by Matthew Kelley
– Ripped Bodice Bookstore (Small Business for Romantic/Erotic Books)
– OMGYes
– Love Worth Making: How to Have Ridiculously Great Sex in a Long-Lasting Relationship by Snyder Stephen
– Working on Your Relationship Alone
– How distressed is your marriage?
– Coral: App with guided lessons in sexual health
– Yes, No, Maybe List
– Relationship Goals Worksheet
– Ian Kerner on Desire Discrepancy
– Come As You Are Podcast on Desire Discrepancy (watch above video first)
Dating:
– Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find and Keep Love by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller
– Relationship Goals Worksheet
– Instagram @togethernesstherapy
Depression:
– Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance
– My Depression (The Up and Down of It): Movie
– What to Do When Someone You Love is Depressed by Susan Goland & Mitch Golant
– Are you depressed?
Domestic Abuse / Intimate Partner Abuse:
– The National Domestic Violence Hotline (24/7 Confidential)
– CAVCB You can receive compensation if you have been a victim of a crime and have a police report number (or are willing to make a police report)
Female Sexuality:
– Come As You Are: The Surprising Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski
– OMGYes
– Labia Library
– 10 Things You Don’t Know About Orgasm
– Pelvic Floor Intro
– Coral: App with guided lessons in sexual health
– Come As You Are Podcast
LGBTQIA2+:
– Los Angeles LGBT Center Health Resources
– Asexuality Documentary
– The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man’s World by Alan Downs
– Are you asexual?
– Coral: App with guided lessons in sexual health
– National Queer & Trans Therapists of Color Network: Mental Health Funds
Male Sexuality:
– The Mask of Masculinity: How Men Can Embrace Vulnerability, Create Strong Relationships and Live Their Fullest Lives by Lewis Howes
– Size Fact & Fictions
– Coral: App with guided lessons in sexual health
– Come As You Are Podcast
Non-monogamy:
– Normalizing Non-Monogamy Podcast
– The Smart Girl’s Guide to Polyamory: Everything you Need to Know About Open Relationships, Non-Monogamy, and Alternative Love by Dedeker Winston
– Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What it Means for Modern Relationships by Cacilda Jetha and Christopher Ryan
Premarital Counseling:
– The Conscious Bride: Women Unveil Their True Feelings about Getting Hitched by Sheryl Paul
Self Esteem:
– Self Esteem Poem “I Am Me”
– Goal Setting
– The Self-Esteem Workbook Book by Glenn R. Schiraldi
Senior Sex:
– Assisted Loving bu Ginger Manley
– Naked at Our Age by Joan Price
Sex/Porn Addiction or Compulsive Sexual Behavior:
– Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes
– Find SLAA Meetings Near You
– Porn Related Sexual Dysfunctions
– How Long Does it Take to Recover From Porn Addiction?
Sexual Assault Survivors:
– The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Sexual Abuse by Ellen Bass & Laura Davis
– The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk
– (TRIGGER WARNING) 10 Sessions Podcast
– Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network (RAINN)
– Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
– CalVCB You can receive compensation if you have been a victim of a crime and have a police report number (or are willing to make a police report)
– Helping Survivors of Sexual Abuse & Assault
Suicide:
– American Foundation for Suicide Prevention
Other Resources:
– National Institute of Mental Health
– National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI)
– Alcohol Rehab Help
– Art With Impact
Find a Therapist (Other than Togetherness Therapy):
– Low Fee Counseling – Open Counseling
– Low fee Counseling – Open Path
– Black Psychotherapists
– QTPoC Therapists
– Spanish Speaking Therapists
– AASECT Certified Sex Therapists
– All other needs can be found using filters on Psychologytoday.com

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